Okay. It’s 11:10 PM and I should be getting ready for bed.
Last week I had a discussion with one of my best friends that has led to my heart changing somewhat. I basically came to the conclusion that while I thought I was trusting God for everything in my life and I thought I had a lot of patience, I wasn’t being totally truthful with myself. It all comes down to being single and expecting and wanting that to change. Until last week I had truly believed that I had been trusting God’s timing for bringing the right woman into my life.
I have realized that I still don’t know when that time is or who she is and that I should just let it happen. Sometimes I feel like the time is right and I just sit and wonder why it hasn’t happened yet. Pastor Bob said something a few weeks ago that resonated within me. He was talking about God’s perfect timing and how sometimes people feel that they are ready, and they very well could be, but maybe the person that God has in mind for them is not ready yet. Maybe they have something more to learn that will make them that much better.
I just finished reading “Boy meets Girl”, by Joshua Harris. It talks a lot about the concept of courtship. I think I like that idea better than traditional dating. The biggest thing that I got out of it is that we need to treat each other as brother’s and sister’s, not as possible mates. If we start looking at someone as a future husband or wife, it puts unhealthy strain on the relationship. It causes us to want to jump ahead and get right into a serious relationship when what is really needed is a strong friendship that may or more likely – may not, turn into a romance.
It is a little bit different way of thinking for me. While I had years ago already come to the conclusion that a strong friendship is a necessity for a good romance, I tended to start thinking into things too quickly and too much.
I had hoped that the book would help to clear some things up a bit, but sometimes I feel that I am more confused than ever. That tells me that I have not been trusting God’s timing as much as I should.
Something that goes along these lines is a [url=http://jonnberg.com/?postid=279]repost[/url] from New Life Ministries that I received a few days ago from that same friend mentioned above.