So, there is this girl that I work with at Club 3 Degrees. She worked with me on the first night that I was there and my first two thoughts were:
1. Wow, she is very cute! Long dark hair, fairly tall…
2. She is so out of my league…
Over the last year, we have gotten to know each other a little more. In the different club related events that we have both taken part in, we seem to have a good time together. A couple of nights ago I was thinking about my upcoming birthday dinner and my nephew’s birthday party the next day. I was kinda bummed out that I would go another year without a date to my birthday dinner. Then I remembered something that my mom told me last year about her thinking that I would find someone that would go with me this year.
So that started me thinking about who I could ask to go. This girl’s name popped into my head, but I was still kinda under the impression that she was out of my league. There were a few more names that went through my mind, but they would have all been “friends”. That is not necessarily a bad thing, but it’s not quite what I was hoping for.
I went to sleep still thinking about it and I must have had a dream, perhaps God spoke to me because the next morning, I had an overwhelming urge to send her an email and ask her if she wanted to go. I didn’t feel nervous about it at all. It was all kind surreal actually.
I pretty much forgot about it until my phone buzzed at me yesterday afternoon. She replied and she said that she would love to go! It was crazy. She also said that I should call her or she will call me later and maybe we could get together before then too.
At first I thought that she meant on Friday, before the dinner, but Justin seems to think that she wants to go out sooner than the dinner. Taking Justin’s advice, I asked her to go to Jeremy’s Fondue party this Friday. She has not replied as yet, so who knows…
wait a minute? I advised what – I seem to remember telling you that I always screw up between the confirmation of a date and the actual date… if you are taking my advice you are screwed!
ok, so we better jump into damage control here… she said yes to the first date invite and then you asked her again the next day… this screams of being over anxious… as far as she is concerned she should sense you are this guy who is only slightly interested in her because you have TONS of options in the world of ladyland… I would pretty much say at this point to hang back and not communicate any more with her until you hear from her – even then don’t respond immediately… two date invitations in two days may be too much – let’s pray not… but then again, as I mentioned, I usually screw this up… (for females reading this comment hopefully you can get a glimpse of how hard it is to be a guy… we have so many factors to consider) – don’t forget, I’m hoping this goes well with you two so that I can be part of a double date
actually – don’t listen to me …. girls baffle me
Justin’s right. You are coming off as way over-anxious by asking her out two times in two days. Not to mention the second date is with a bunch of your friends, which may not be a very comfortable thing for her. You should have stuck with coffee or lunch…no, not dinner, I said lunch. It’s too late now to retract so just chill out like Justin said and wait for her to respond. And I agree that you should not respond too quickly. I know that you always respond quickly with everyone because you are Mr. Mobile Internet Dude, but you need to hold off and make her wonder for a change what you are going to say. And don’t be upset if she doesn’t want to go to the fondue party because, honestly, she’s probably not looking to meet all your friends right now. She wants to get to know you and see where that goes and if it’s going the right direction, then she’ll want to meet your friends. Anyways, I’ll stop rambling now, but those are my thoughts for now.